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Things I Dare Not Hope For On A Date
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“On a date with a man I dare not hope that he will actually be interested in my life and want to know more about me. It is usually just me asking them questions about their life. When they do, they usually just ask me what I asked them - there’s not even the slightest effort made to think of something original.”
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“I have stopped hoping that people will tell me directly that they don’t want to meet me again. Usually people ghost or make some excuse that sort of communicates lack of interest. But I would like to be told by someone ‘you’re really great but not what I’m looking for’ seedha seedha with dignity.”
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“I’ve stopped hoping that people will text you within a week after meeting, let alone often.”
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“I’ve stopped hoping that cis men will stop seeing me as anything other than a cis girl and do everything they do in a hetero relationship. I’ve also stopped hoping that they’d be hot and funny.
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“I’ve stopped hoping that I’ll meet someone interesting or that something will come out of it. Like a long-term relationship with or even just that I’ll enjoy myself for that time. That too doesn’t happen. So much mansplaining!”
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“I don’t hope to pay for the full bill anymore because almost every girl wants to split the bill. It goes against the old fashioned way in which I was raised, but my wallet thanks me now.”
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“When I go out on a date, I would like to have fun, and not constantly feel the pressure to keep the other person entertained. I don’t want to be the person who tries to make a connection, and is charming etc. I want the other person to make an effort too. I want to be wooed.”
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“When I’m on a date with a woman/femme/AFAB person I stop myself from hoping NOT to trauma dump on the first date, lmao. Every queer date I’ve been on has been some form of trauma dump. And, honestly I love it. It’s taught me to be so much more comfortable with vulnerability, which is my worst enemy lol.”
“I don’t hope for that “spark,” on a first date. When I was younger it was all about instant attraction but now I’ve realised that attraction is fluid and based on much more than whatever happens on the first date. And sparks that develop later are almost always worth the wait."
